Many years ago as part of a self-esteem increasing period, I discovered that part of how we know and understand ourselves comes from outside of ourselves. So in spite of any little voice inside ourselves which cries out to the contrary, negative messages, particularly in the formative years, can take hold. At the same time, the messages from outside can shed new light on how you are doing or who you are. Thus, my first post and the comments on my trash can, shed new light. I have been burrowed deep down in a channel of production and judging and could not see my own progress.